It’s never too late, a poem by Tridiv Sinha

By Tridiv Sinha, New Delhi

Young man comes to a metro city,

To become successful like his daddy.

Tell him not to end up messy,

Coz life’s bitter, not that cozy.

He tries to materialize his dreams,

But is shattered by the heartless screams.

Tried putting small things in seams,

Thread is fragile, just like day-dreams.

He starts his life with a small job,

To save himself from tears and sob.

After one year of sweet – bitter lob,

People find him a foolish snob.

When he realizes what he became,

Only to find it too hard to tame.

In his path to gain money and fame,

He engulfs in quicksand of shame.

Now it’s too late to turn back,

He suffered life’s unforgiving smack.

Tell him it’s never too late,

He can make his own fate.

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Empowerment of women is a slow process

By Tridiv Sinha, New Delhi

The following words are not diplomatic. Please don’t take me as a male chauvinist person, all I am trying to put forward is the naked truth and people might get offended here. If this article has passed the moderator, I think there’s some why you should read it too.

The kind of society ideal people is looking for, where women will be considered equal to men is an ideal case. Not a real one. Not possible until there is a huge biological change in physical form. Not possible until women are equal in strength compared to men. By strength, I mean both population and physical strength. This is an old jungle rule and no one can deny it. Having said that, I would want to put forward another fact – human beings are mammals. Now, what separates a mammal from other organisms? The mammary glands, which they use to feed the young ones. This creates a strong bond between the mother and the offspring. The bond between a mother and the offspring is much more than that with the father. This happens due to two main reasons –

(1) The offspring stays in its mother’s womb for a specific period of time before getting (birth, depending on the species. In this period, the offspring used nutrition from the mother’s body to survive. The father has no significant role in this process.

(2) After getting born, the mother’s mammary glands act as the nutrition provider. Again, the father has no significant role in it.

This rule stands strong for almost every species including Human beings. Many wild animals or pet animals in mammals’ don’t have the involvement of the male gender in bringing up the new ones. Since human beings are intelligent and civilized, the father cares for his son or daughter so that his gene pool carries on to the next generation. This phenomenon may be seen in a species of rodents – The Lemmings. Lemmings commit mass suicide to make room for the coming generation. They want the coming generations to survive and sacrifice their own lives.

The selfish genes play an important role here which is predominant in human beings. This explains the reason why siblings care for each other. It does not act as some will, but an automatic choice. The gene urges the individual to sacrifice himself so that his sibling may survive, in other words the gene may survive.

The above facts may look irrelevant to this article, but they do play an important part and we will admit in due course of time. The bond between the mother and the offspring is much stronger than the father. So, almost all animals have the custom where the mother cares for the young ones until they become self dependent. Human beings are civilized, but they can not break nature’s rule properly. We are governed by nature’s rules. Even though the father plays an important role, the mother is more involved. So, it is seen that the mother cares for the family and home and the father works for providing food and shelter. Now, if we analyze the physical strengths of a male and female body, we come to the conclusion that male body is stronger. In early societies, man used to go hunting and the woman took care of the family. So, this custom carried on.

Analyze the population now. The number of males is always greater than females. Since females are less in population in any place, they are not safe from attacks from males. The ratio of male to female at night time staying outside home is again too high. This is a vicious circle which eats up anything that works for the development of status of woman.

Let me explain it. Until there are equal number of males and females in any place, one can not expect equal status to woman in that place. Until woman feel safe, how they can equal the number of males in any place? This reduces the pace with which the women empowerment activities should work.

It seems like males enjoy physical relationships more than females do, at least males are more aggressive. The females are the victims in physical abuses by males. This is another reason why females are not safe outside home and thus reduces the number of females to work.

The final reason is somewhat related to females. Women tend to attract men with their beauty. It is a known fact that a woman devotes more time in caring to look beautiful than a man does. In this process, woman actually surrenders to the man. One can understand what I am saying if he reads the books by Taslima Nasrin. I have taken the final reason from her ideas. It is the females who dig their own graveyard.

In conclusion, I would like to say that as far as woman doesn’t go a huge change in physical form and strength; the empowerment of women will be a slow process.

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Good-Evil, Light-Dark, Heaven-Hell: What are these?

Good-Evil, Light-Dark, Heaven-Hell, Positive-Negative, Yin-Yang, Male-Female, Matter-Antimatter, Electron-Proton and so on. What are these? These point out to one single phenomenon existing in our lives – The Great Duality. From time unknown, we are discovering everything with it’s opposite as well.

By Tridiv Sinha, New Delhi

May be the nemesis is discovered a bit late, but it comes out much stronger than it’s original. After introduction of electricity and artificial light, man thought that now he had conquered the dark. But the bitter truth is that we are killing natural light in the process and so the darkness is growing even more.

We all experience dualities in day to day life in different forms. Earth’s past was dominated by dualities, but with increasing time another front is born which is developing faster than a wildfire. It’s killing the boundary between the opposites and trying to establish a compromising or common path between the two. We can’t say whether it’s for better or worse, but it’s happening for sure. Many phenomenons which were dormant earlier are coming out stronger than ever.

One such can be experienced in workplaces, especially in business. If I am not wrong, people in earlier decades had two images in their minds – an honest person or a dishonest one. But in modern times an honest is often considered a fool and the later smart. In addition to that, a man who compromises his honesty for individual profits defend himself by saying that he’s doing it for a better career living. He’s neither honest nor dishonest, just trying to make a good living. He chooses the middle path and thus many follow the same and do no feel guilty.

The bridge between good and evil is declining and only one remains which plays an important part in human civilization – Power. If you have power, you are the good one and the one threatening you is the evil.

What I’m putting here are trifles, but they did occur to me and so I wanted to share. Take the example of telephone. When a call comes, what options do you have? Either to take the call or suffer the irritating ring. Now, we have cell phones. When a call comes, you can cancel the call if you don’t want to attend. Ringing any bells? Yes, third front is at play. Nature is getting us to our evolution and in the process, we are developing things which takes the middle way between two extremes. In other words, we are trying to escape. It’s for good or bad, I don’t want to argue. It’s for the readers to think over.

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A word of caution

By Tridiv Sinha, New Delhi

The following words are related to a sport which is followed by very few Indians, with only one participant in its 50 years of history, without any winners. In case you haven’t figured which sport I’m talking about, the intro would come as follows: The premier ‘Open Wheel Racing’ sport involving the most advanced technology and which tests both the player and his ride, The Formula1 [Or F-1 for short].

No need to sing the glory of F-1 when we have something more to discuss on. But to make my points clear, some points should not be left unattended without which the idea would be missing. To start with, the championship consists of 17 or 18 races around the globe per year [March to November]. Ten teams with two regular drivers each along with some test drivers for each team compete for the Constructors Championship. Points scored by drivers add to the Team Total, test drivers acting as reserves. Twenty drivers compete for the Driver’s title. This sport is the test of both man and machine. 50 Technical Stuffs are dedicated to a single Driver/Car.

Among some amazing facts about the feats of the car, one of the most important is the safety. Recent cars can attain a maximum speed limit of 340 km/h. The driver’s safety is thus very important. Recent cars are like fortresses, drivers come out with minor injuries from collisions at 200km/h. With some injuries at 300km/h, the driver still comes out alive. The most important part in the whole package of the car is its Aerodynamics. Due to its Aerodynamics, a car’s apparent weight becomes 6 times the original and it can run upside down on the roof at racing speed.

Since it involves a lot of engineering, F-1 is guided by some rules so that no one gets unfair advantage over another. Technology apart, drivers are also required to follow some specific rules and regulations and Race Stewards are there to keep track that everything goes on well.

One of the greatest drivers in F-1, Michael Schumacher was criticized by press due to his reckless driving and some risky maneuvers which leads to risky situations for both him and the other drivers concerned. Race Stewards have fined him for his mistakes. The recent controversy in F-1 was of one such incident, with the other way around. This time, most of the press backed the Driver who took a risky move to overtake his opponent. If I don’t disclose the identities, people won’t understand what’s wrong in here.

First of all, English contributes to the max number of press and media coverage. Schumacher was a German and he never raced for a British Team. Even though he made mistakes, press multiplied them ten folds and made him the criminal.

In the last race, Lewis Hamilton and Kimi Raikkonnen are the leaders, Kimi taking the lead from 3rd position as early as the third lap. He led the race for 40 laps out of 44. The rains came a bit later than predicted when there were only 3 laps left. Everyone on dry tires were losing grip and started making mistakes. A wet track is always risky, especially when you were driving with dry tires. After a long straight, Hamilton made a move on Kimi on the outside, locked up his wheels, went on to cut the track [short cut] and moved ahead of Kimi. In a race, a driver is fined with a drive through penalty within next three laps for such a mistake. Kimi lost his control later and retired from the race. So, eventually, Lewis Hamilton won the race with Felipe Massa finishing second. Race stewards revealed that they fined Lewis with a drive through penalty which he didn’t serve. So, they added 25 seconds to his time and declared him getting the fourth position, with Massa getting the first position.

Press reacted against this; they wanted Hamilton to be the winner. Now, Hamilton was a British Driver racing for a British team. Press backed him by saying that what he did was just a racing move. All these years, press reacted against Schumacher for his risky moves and suddenly they are in favor of risky moves saying it’s the spirit of racing.

How biased these press people are, we can only understand with such examples. They will back you if you were on their side. They will condemn you if you are on the other side. We have always followed English newspapers and news channels, because we understand the language more than other European languages. They want us to believe that they are always the victims and the honest ones. All the mistakes are committed by the people on the other side; they are the wise ones, the just ones.

Do read newspapers in English, but let’s not follow everything blindly. Just think before you believe in the outlook of the writer. Blind belief is a curse in the modern educated world.

Every man is a confused living being

Yes. Every man is a confused soul; he is grappled by one confusion after another. And it goes on till he is in death bed. The true meaning of Life still remains a mirage, confused, away from truth. But what is truth…

By Tridiv Sinha, New Delhi

When a child gets his senses, he takes a first step towards fulfilling his destiny – ‘Filling his parent’s life with worries’. He starts complaining about the untidy clothes he’s made to wear, which are spoiled by him. He excretes into his clothes and starts crying, complaining about the dress or clothes. He is not satisfied with the healthy and hygienic food provided to him and goes on to chew or taste anything that is prohibited for his own good. He plays with soil and prefers to stay on it.

A bit older and he starts to question about everything – what, why, how. Parents do like their kid being curious, but this also creates a great problem whether to tell the truth in everything or no. The parents create some imaginary monsters and heroes in the kids mind to frighten him and to control his unwanted activities. This solves the problem for the time being but creates a greater pit from which the child might never come out. One can not explain the exact reasons behind everything to a child, but creating imaginary stories confuses the child in his growing years. Sometimes, he finds everything which is told to be false and his beliefs shattered by the reality of life.

A friend is an important part of one’s life. I haven’t used the term good friends, because a friend is always good for you whereas the others are not worth your friendship. Teenagers sometimes make the mistake of choosing friends and pay the price dearly. Once again, he can not decide what is right and what is wrong. The person who is blessed with friends, no matter how few, is one lucky guy and a rich person.

One of the critical periods in a man’s life is the adolescence. His career and his values and perceptions build up at this point. He starts losing his faith in honesty and goodness due to practical exposure to the world.

The kid goes to school and is tortured by bullies or acts as a bully. The suffered weak kid who is called nerd or geek by others can not figure out why or how he deserved such a treatment from the bullies. A strong feeling of vengeance builds up inside him which leads to the development of the negative characters of that person. As far as the bully is concerned, he might enjoy the moments but later realizes the injustice to the weak kids he tortured. He might regret his actions at later stages of time when his own kid suffers bullies in school.

When you ask a kid about his future ambitions, he might come up with the answer like Doctor or Engineer. This is a prejudice created in their minds by parents. No child wants to become a teacher or a journalist, because they are not highly appreciated by their parents due to lack of huge money. The child grows on believing that he will be a doctor or engineer someday, his dreams are shattered when he realizes that it takes a lot to become one. The bottom-line is that parents are responsible by imposing their dreams on their kids.

When a student completes his 10th exams, he is admitted into the stream he fits in rather than the one he likes to pursue. In case of a poor student he has no option as to which stream to follow, but a brighter student have many. By brighter student in normal terms, we mean the one with higher percentage. Even if the student scores higher marks in humanities group than in science stream, his parents would prefer him to choose science as it is more illustrious one. This happens in majority of cases, if not in all the cases. The student keeps wondering why his parents choose the subjects which he didn’t liked much.

This period also brings another golden time with it – Romance. Some follow the beautiful ones, some the intellectual ones and others follow their closest friends of opposite sex. Romance at such an early period is induced by the influence of media of all types. Majority of these relationships fail and the girls or boys keep wondering what went wrong with them.

Even after people get matured, they have confusions in choosing their partners. The confusion being whether to choose the one you like most or the one who cares you the most. There’s a quote I heard recently which refers to this dilemma – “Don’t marry a person you can live with, marry a person you can’t live without”. One can use the same in the above confusion – don’t marry the person you like, marry one who likes you. Here is confusion. If you marry the one who cares about you but you do not reciprocate the same feelings, will you be happy? The opposite may be applicable to the other situation.

At middle stages of life, a person gathers wealth and fortune for his children. He may use some unfair means to gain wealth which he thinks is for the best of his family, his future generations to come. There is shortsightedness in his vision of securing a good future. He might have given a good boost for his next generation, but the later generations will have to suffer for his deeds. His actions as a corrupt person may affect a few people, which in turn become potential corrupt persons. The chain might go exponentially, which is what happening these days. Due to a few corrupt persons long way back, today’s world is filled with corrupt people where no one can trust each other. We are making it worse by adding little drops of corruption to it. One day we will suffer a flood from where no one can escape. So, are we doing any good by securing good fortunes for our children by sacrificing honesty? Later generations may curse us for our ignorance. We are creating a hell on earth for them. This does not only include corruption, pollution of environment also counts. Think again.

One thing that bothers a person is that he might not consider himself ready to face a situation or responsibility. The reality is that a man is not ready to do something until he does the job. It’s only after he faces the situation, he realizes that he was ready.

An old person is left on his own, abandoned by his kid(s). The man sacrificed countless nights so that his kid may have a sound sleep. He sacrificed his own interests for taking care of his child. What he gets in the end? Abandoned by his kids, the old man might wonder – is it wrong to raise your own child sacrificing your own happiness? Our parents say that the smile on the face of your child makes you forget everything else and that is your happiness. But that does not worth much to an old lonely person. His children are well establishes and does not care to think about you. You feel like cursing them to suffer like you did, but you can’t. It’s not a mother-son or father-son love, but the selfish genes at play. Deep inside one still thinks, was your life worth living?

Metallica’s "One"

By Tridiv Sinha, New Delhi

I can’t remember anything
Can’t tell if this is true or dream
Deep down inside I feel to scream
This terrible silence stops me.

Now that the war is through with me
I’m waking up I can not see
That there is not much left of me
Nothing is real but pain now

Hold my breath as I wish for death
Oh please god, wake me.

These are the excerpts from the song – ‘One’ by the Heavy Metal band Metallica. The song was inspired from Dalton Trumbo’s novel ‘Johny Got His Gun’. The novel tells the story of a young American soldier who was severely wounded by a German Artillary Shell in the First World War. His arms, legs, eyes, nose and ears were gone and he could not see, speak, nor hear — but his mind functions perfectly, leaving him a prisoner in his own body. Medically, such a condition is known as locked-in syndrome.

The song reproduces the feelings of the soldier lying on the no man’s land of death and life. After losing almost all the sensory organs except the skin, the soldier is left on the bed with nothing to confront him. He is unable to express his wishes, his problems and worst of all is that he can’t even move his hands to perform his daily activities which are integral to surviving.

The soldier wishes to scream thinking that it will help him get some relief by pouring out his pain which is building up inside. But that is too much to ask for. Since the war is over for him and he tried his best to make sure that he did his part for the country, he wants to get back to the life he once had. But all is lost for him where there is nothing left except physical and mental pain.

All what a person can wish for in this kind of situation is Death, which will be more peaceful and cheaper than the price he is paying to survive. The situation is that he can’t feel whether he is sleeping or he is awake.

He is scared to look forward to the future and see the horrors which will unfold throughout his life. He wants to cut off his life supporting machines which remind him of the war field. He is trapped inside his own body as he cannot communicate with the external world, so his world becomes just ‘One’.

All he can feel is the darkness and no ray of hope. He drifts between reality and fantasy, tries to figure out the realities and myths of war. Physically, he can’t see the literal darkness. Mentally, there is no hope for a peaceful future, there is darkness there too. Now his life is just one hell on earth and no one wants to live in hell. He prays to god for Death.

War can bring only grief and death and no glory with it. We kill our own kind just to get a little more of the lifeless lands and make lives lifeless. Nothing can relieve the soldiers of their pain suffered during war.

Song:

The song opens with the sound of machine guns followed by a sad guitar solo by James Hetfield. The intro guitar conveys the sadness, which is produced in the soldier’s mind. Hetfield starts the songs with a slow and quiet voice with a little aggression. When he complains about his present situation and prays to god for death, he becomes more aggressive.

Kirk Hammet’s soft guitar solo follows. The song takes a violent turn to show the agitated mind of the soldier. The song transforms from a sad melody to an aggressive one. The situation of the soldier is the same. The first feelings in his mind were that of sadness. Later, he starts to complain about everything as he finds no comfort in any earthly things, which makes him more violent where he prays to god to greet him with death.

Video:

The music video of the song was taken from the movie ‘Johny Got His Gun’ which was also inspired from the novel. The video shows the condition of the soldier in the hospital where he is covered by a roll cage and a white cloth over it. His face is also covered with a cloth.

In the video, there was a scene of the soldier’s childhood when he asked about democracy to his father. The father replies by saying that it has something to do with young people killing each other. This was the darkest truth behind America’s participation in First World War.
Soldiers sacrificed their lives without knowing exactly what they were dying for.

The soldier tries to convey his wish to die to his doctors by using the banging of his head as his Morse code. In the end, he is left in his bed alone and the door is closed.

Not the Best

Ever since I came to my senses, I remember myself choosing the lesser known or the second bests in any field. This is not an intended one, but I somehow end up choosing something which is not the best.

Tridiv Sinha

People generally look up to those icons that have excelled in their fields, the perfect picture and successful ones. This happens because everyone wants a perfect life, not a life filled with tragedy. No one in this world would respect a person who is unsuccessful. People sing the glories of heroes and leaders. So, everyone wants to be successful in this rat race. There are few people who do not care about success, and are called idiots or losers. No one wants to know what makes the person ignore success when everyone else is following. If we understand the feelings of that person, we might know the answer to a lot of questions regarding life. Is there any person who is successful and has fulfilled his/her dreams at the same time? Ask yourselves whether or not you have sacrificed something or the other which was very dear to you on the path of becoming successful? Every person has to pay for his success and there are no exceptions. I’m not asking to leave the path to success and pursue that of your dream. There’s much more in a ordinary person than a successful one. Perhaps he/she wasn’t ready to sacrifice what was very dear to him/her and he/she preferred to remain the same.

We respect sacrifices made by great people, but what about a common man? Have you ever thought that a normal freedom fighter might have gone to jail many times more than Gandhi? We don’t know whether some other ‘Satyagrahi’ had suffered the punishments much more than Gandhi. One should worship common people instead worshipping of some leaders, because it’s the common people who make the Leaders, at least they attempt to make a difference whether or not it has an overall effect.

On this account, I want to take the reference of ‘The Simoquin Prophecies’ By Samit Basu. The book can’t be considered an appreciable one, but the concept is somewhat original/ unique. We have read stories about the fight between good and evil, one of the greatest dualities of our world. But, there is another interpretation to this duality. There is no good or evil in this world. Everyone wants to increase their influence over others. This isn’t evil, but a normal trait or an instinct that humans have in human beings. This is the thing that makes a man successful. History is always written by the winner. A loser’s point of view is never mentioned or considered. The winner publicizes himself as the ‘Good’, whereas the loser is termed ‘Evil’. Just because you lost, you are termed as Evil. Winners have always done this grave injustice to the losers.

It should be noted that history has produced great leaders but very few cared to know about their second in command. These persons who stand by the side of the leaders, have greater character strength than the leaders themselves. They are the perfect examples of loyalty and sacrifice. Just think of a situation where your subordinate is planning your demise and wants to take control of your progress. Can you succeed? NO. It’s the selflessness of these people which takes successful people up the ladder. These ordinary and inferior ones should be given the respect they deserve. So, instead of saying ‘Behind every successful man, there is a woman’, we should say ‘Behind every successful man, there are other men/women.’

My Experiments With Music

People often confuse Rock music for something which it’s not. People suffer from a prejudice that only those who like parties and no feelings like rock music. I don’t want everyone to like Rock, nor want to advocate it as the best genre of music. I just want to say that every genre of music has it’s own followers and people should respect that.

By Tridiv Sinha, New Delhi

Being a rock fan, I’m asked many a times as to why I listen to these ‘Meaningless Craps’, to put in their words. One should understand that each and every creation has a value of it’s own and cannot be neglected as anything.

I first started my journey with ‘Scorpions’ – a German band. I liked the sound of the guitars which led me to try the genre which involves the greatest guitar players the world has ever seen. At the initial stages, I stuck to the music just because of the guitars, but soon it turned out that they have excelled in lyrical contents too. Anyone who doesn’t agree may compare the lyrical contents of Rock with any other genre of their liking.

I’ve often seen that if a song doesn’t have the romantic contents and a slow music, people often confuse it for useless music. Most of the people have slow and romantic music as their favorite songs.

Rock music has few bands that do follow romance as their lyrics, whereas majority of other bands use other human feelings as the theme. To put it in easier words, Romantic Music is Shakespeare and Rock Music is Franz Kafka or Leo Tolstoy.

The major pioneers in Rock Music have always tried to express human feelings other than just love. Bands like Metallica have always criticized war and modern globalization through their music. Rock is about bringing out the depression building inside you, and I don’t think that these feelings should be melodious in anyways. There is more to say, little space to continue. So, the next time you see a Rock fan, don’t have a prejudice that he has a bad taste of music. Try to experience the music and then decide whether it’s just another waste of time or a precious Jewel you have missed all these years.

Where the Bishnupriya Manipuri society is heading?

I was bit confused that day. Does worshipping God relieves one from the responsibilities to follow social and religious customs? I was juxtaposed what our Bishnupriya Manipuri society is becoming.

By Tridiv Sinha

I visit ‘Malthep‘ not for religious purposes, but for meeting people. I’m not religious, but I am very much social. A few years back, when I was in my village, I used to go to Rath Pali. The elderly persons in our village pronounced a new rule in order to resurrect the old social customs. It was made compulsory that women/girls should wear Langou-Inafi; and men/boys wear Irufi.

I’m proud to say I followed the rules along with a few others. But I was shocked one day when one of my friends, whom I knew as a very god loving person coming in Jeans n T-shirt started laughing seeing my newly adorn dress. He knew me as an atheist, and he got surprised seeing me in a traditional dress. I made him clear that even though I’m not a religious man, I do respect social and religious customs whereas it meant not-of-concern to him, although he was very religious.

I was bit confused that day. Does worshipping god relieves you from the responsibilities to follow social customs? I don’t know whether this happened in many places. But I was deeply hurt what our Bishnupriya Manipuri society is becoming. I won’t advocate atheists, neither do I condemn worshipping. In my opinion, we should follow our social customs above all else, because it’s not the religion that keeps us united, it’s the society that unites us.

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